Like all relationship structures, nonmonogamy involves work. One person might struggle with jealousy; another might feel neglected by their primary partner. As the members of a 20+ person polycule recently told The New York Times, great communication is key.
To navigate opening up their marriage and entering the polycule, one couple used an interesting tactic: agile scrum.
Agile scrum is a combination of business principles and strategy. The idea is for teams to break down their deliverables into smaller tasks and shorter timeframes, reviewing their progress as they go. That way they can swiftly adapt to changes to produce more effective results in the long run.
In The New York Times, Ann said the couple practiced agile scrum “for a year and a half, at least once a month, sometimes six to 10 hours of hard poly-processing.”
Unlike Ann, who described herself as “on and off nonmonogamous” and a “relationship anarchist,” her husband, Robert, initially struggled with opening their marriage …